Fundamental Differences....The other side

Hello Peoples,
Dearest Daisy has posted a very interesting entry about some differences between American and English. I would like to take this moment to put my 2 cents in....(oh dear, is that an American phrase?)
Incentivized is a word I have never even heard of... Spell check says it does not exist...LOL "My Bad" is just a slang phrase started in a movie, I believe.
The word that caused the most blushes and a lot of laughter was Fanny. In American, it is a silly word to describe the ass, arse. Apparently in The Queen's English it is a naughty word for the female yummy. (sorry, almost blushed.)
So you can imagine when I said I was going to spank her fanny, Daisy got quite worried. I had no idea of the difference in meaning. In America we have a chocolate company called "Fanny Farmer" In the Queen's English that would have a totally different meaning.... Fannie Flagg is an actress/Author..Hmmm
As for my apparent Chivalry, it is actually all I know. I realize that Chivalry is also an English term but we do borrow freely...LOL It is a completely natural reaction for me to open a door, pull a chair. Basic rules of politeness. My friend Bear commented on Daisy's Blog That Chivalry is not dead there either. I believe him. He and I can not be the last 2 men in the world that believe that women should be treated in a royal fashion. The fact of the matter is, without Women, life wouldn't be worth much.
Now, before anyone thinks they have found a weakness....Treating a well mannered, not bratting woman as royalty is totally natural to me. When my Daisy brats , I will always hold the door for her but I will sting her sweet ass on the way through it. Love the flashback look in her eyes when she sits on the common hard chair of most eateries.
NOW A COUPLE OF OTHER THINGS......
Fastest way to kill blooming Chivalry in your man??? I once held a door for a girl I was seeing. She looked dead in my eyes and said " I am fully capable of opening a big bad door" Later on, I tried to light a cigarette for her. She blew out my lighter and lit it herself. Seemingly silly actions but those type things will crush the greatest hero's of our time. I realize that women need to feel empowered but please don't mistake that with your man trying to treat you special.
How to nurture Chivalry.....
When Daisy and I first met in person, I raced ahead of her to get the door.Her eyes had 2 distinct looks. One was Surprise and the other was appreciation. The same look came about her when I carried her bags and mine, when I pulled her chair at dinner. Over the years we have visited, the surprised look has faded. The look of appreciation has never faded a bit. That is also why I will always and forever be the very best gentleman I can be.
OK guys, don't hate me for the following...
We won't often say it but your appreciation of us for those simple things means a lot to us. Remembering B-days, anniversaries and such...Those are obvious. Remembering to ask you how your day was, The coffee, was it to strong? Hey, you worked late, Had a very hard day, shall I handle dinner? These are things that should be just as obvious.
Forgive me as I stray a bit into pop-psychology... Most men today were brought up and taught by their fathers who passed on old fashioned ideas.
Treating a woman like royalty at that point meant you were trying to bed them...LOL No wonder that there is confusion. Some men actually open doors, give up their seats on buses or even hail the next cab in preference to a woman. These are usually the guys who have learned to appreciate women as more than objects.
This all brings up a very strange issue...When Daisy first broached the idea of spanking with me, I told her that single handedly she could set woman's lib back 50 years. It took me a while to understand the difference. A willing Spankee is so much different than my Mother's generation. The days when a man got angry, frustrated and had no use for reasonable talk and just lashed out. There is a difference....a fine one but still a difference.
Alright, I am rambling.... I hope everybody can gain something from some part of this Babble. As always, I am open to questions, especially if this entry was as confusing as I think it might have been...
OH, I forgot something, the phone call thing...
I hate being on the phone for more than a minute except with Daisy. and calling for a lunch date would be a little longer than she stated but as long as her version of an english one??? Would drive me mad.

I kind of have a self rule thing. I will occasionally check spelling errors but however I first type it is how it stays.
Jay, I miss chatting as well Much love to my beautiful wife Daisy.
Peace, Joy and Cosmic Tranquility,
Davey

Explanations

Hi Peoples,
Due to serious concerns from Daisy I have agreed to further limit any "real world" information that I post here. It is a urgent concern of my darling wife's that our real identities will be discovered accidentally by someone that knows us. I want you all to know this not a concern involving any regular readers. She googled some strange subject and one of the first results was a common spank blog. It is her concern that the wrong person discovering our identities on here could wreak havoc in reality. I guess I am a little more naive or trusting. Which is why my blog will not go private. It is also why I pulled a recently posted entry. I spoke quite candidly about someone I serve as caregiver for. If in a million to 1 chance, someone that knew me "in reality" were to read it, put it together with other "real world" info I provide freely, SHAZAM !!!!! Anybody that knows me in real knows who Daisy is as well.
To be honest, I really didn't think this whole Blogging world would be so complicated and wrought with perils. All this time I have been blissfully relating anything good or bad that crossed my mind. Never giving a second thought to a secret identity thing.
I promise, I will put some serious effort into an entry that is interesting but reality free. I would rather quit posting than go private.
Much love to Daughter Jay and my Beautiful Wife Daisy.
Davey
P.S. Daisy is currently having probs with her blog but will be back on asap.
P.P.S Thank you Bonnie and Hermione for your suggestions. It appears Daisy will be back in the "normal" Blogging world soon

Appreciation

Hello peoples,
I agree with Daisy, this will be a lot easier to write when she and I are together and creating situations worthy of talking about. Although, I am a bit concerned that our blogs will be very much the same at that time...LOL
So, for todays missive, I thought I would do something I have meant to do for a long time. Say thank you.
I do not want anyone to be offended if not mentioned by name but I am sure I will inadvertently drop someone(s).
I have to start with Daisy. Without whom, I would not be posting anything. She was the encouragement required to get me started here and I am ever so glad I did. She was also the 1st one to ever comment here...NO big surprise.
Second to comment was daughter J. I think being my daughter made her feel obligated...LOL
Then things got a bit more interesting. Daisy and Jay are both wonderful people and in very different ways very important to me. I started getting comments from people I didn't know... Please do not think me strange but in real life,I am kinda shy. So when Paul and Ronnie commented, I was beside myself...HAPPY that is.I was talking to people without stuttering. Lil miss naughty was next I was astounded....I didn't know any of these people.
Next up was Tigg's I was so greatful for her comment, sounded much like an english teacher giving a good grade on an essay. LOL I really appreciated that. Self-confidence has never been a strong point in writing.
Big bear, thank you for your support and Daisy is still a work in progress. I just can not seem to stop her from smart assing all over the blog world. LOL I think I have slowed her down a little, will have to do until I get home.
Lady_Karen_Rebel was next, have not heard a lot but I appreciate anyone that takes a moment to read.
In the very next entry, I gained 2 more friends. Penfold and Hermione. 2 very dear people who's opinion I dearly value. Although I do not believe anyone actually knew the Richard Bach I was speaking of......LOL
I always enjoy when Meow stops by for a few minutes.. Such a lovely, friendly soul. I of course appreciate lash as well. If no one has noticed, I tend to remember the Ladies first. LOL
Saffron joined soon there after. Have not heard anything lately, hope you are well.
To the many Anonymous in the world, Most of you have been quite nice. Thank you for your attentions.
Dante, you were not forgotten. For some reason, I can not find any comments from you. Yet I know they were here......I was trying for chronological order her...
Except in this case....The very first Spanking blog I ever read was "My bottom smarts" And silly as it seems, I was elated to see Bonnie herself comment here.
Well, to all of you....THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
I promise to try to find an interesting topic soon.

Much love to J and my beautiful wife Daisy.

Davey

Are all guys idiots?

Hello ladies and gentleman,
Apparently, I am an idiot. (No need to agree so quickly...lol)

Today marked 5 months since I was honored to be Daisy's husband. As you all know, we have spent very little of that time together. Daisy very rarely makes a big deal out of monthly anniversaries but she did this time. She wrote a beautiful post on her blog...Dedicated to me. Sadly, I did not respond to it.

What is not be so well known is that I ordinarily work 3PM-11 PM. Last night, before she posted, I got mandated. I worked 3pm-7:15 AM. I got home and chatted with Daisy for a bit and went to bed. I woke up within an hr or 2, came on for a bit longer and tried again for sleep. During my second shot on line, I read her beautiful post but held off on responding. I wanted a clear head and a fair attempt to match her prose. She really is a beautiful writer when moved that way.
Another little known fact is that Davey has a huge Ego. I learned a long while ago that if I wait to the last possible moment to "remember" something, Daisy makes a huge deal of it. My Ego is pleased and usually so is she. LOL I guess I waited to long to say anything.

Instead I went on about how so very few had commented on my last entry. I talked about work and did everything except talk about this anniversary. I really felt I had time.


I was wrong.

In my usual attempt at humor and fun/games I let it go to long. I managed to hurt the feelings of the most loving, caring and patient woman I have ever known. I am an idiot.
As if things are not hard enough between us, through simple stupidity I can triple the probs just by being me.
To the few of you that managed to see that post before pulled, you can see that I am well loved and that Daisy is a beautiful writer. To those who missed it...I am sorry.
So, at the end of the day, I am no Spiderman...not even Mighty Mouse. I am just a man trying hard to live up to one woman's belief... I will be her hero. I have heard that paddle spun from webbing can be interesting....LOL

PART 2.

I am beginning to think that my last post was a little to "revealing". I am very sorry if I offended anyone. I really didn't think that was possible. In case anyone is wondering....Daisy was well aware before it was posted. I am not in any way revealing secrets, nor am I a great big meanie...

In the past, I have been encouraged to explore the world of fiction or Fantasy...Now we see why I so deftly avoid such challenges. Of course it has also been said that if I put 1/2 the effort into writing and less from avoiding I could be the next DR.Seuss....

As I have said from the start, I have no idea what the hell I am doing here. Other than the fact that I have really grown to know and appreciate a lot of people here.
BTW, Dante you are 1 helluva an artist....

Big hugs to daughter Jay and much love to Mrs Davey........Daisy, you are my Angel.

Peace and happiness to all.
Davey

FICTION....(TO BECOME FACT SOON WE HOPE!!!)

Hello beautiful Brat,
In your previous letter, you mentioned a night when you thought it was a good idea to be really bratty in front of your friends while making sure I was not in a position to do anything about it. You know that that behavior is very offensive to me. We have gone round and round over this very subject. Yet you still continue to think it is a funny idea.
Well Darling brat, Now that I am home and we are together for real, it is time for the final battle.
We come home from the get together and the house is ours for the weekend. You notice all the way home that I am really, for real, upset with you. When we finally arrive, you try to speak and I put my hand to your mouth...
"Be very quiet, your every word will earn you more pain than you can imagine. You are to go upstairs and undress. Wait for me quietly and remember that the moas (Mother of all Spanks)was just practice!"
"Davey, I am sorry,I know I was..."
SLAM............The hardest sting ever over your slacks... "I SAID BE QUIET WOMAN. Now...go and do what you were told".
You know better than to argue further....
After you have been waiting 10 minutes or so, I arrive. I am dressed in my jeans only with my belt in my hand. I have no smile, just a dark look.
"Tonight dear, you will learn "submission".
" Davey, please....."
STING STING STING...
"You are not to speak again tonight....Unless I tell you. This is not to be a friendly thing brat. You have embarrassed me for the last time."
I push you onto the pile of pillows and secure you VERY tightly. As I secure the implements, I begin telling you a very long story about the reasons you need to change your behaviour. The spoon, paddle, leather paddle,crop,slipper and of course the cane.
"Tonight you did something you rarely do, you actually acted like a bitch to me. You degraded me in front of people I barely know. In order to preserve your reputation, I tried to handle it quietly. I WILL NEVER DO SO AGAIN. Tonight you will learn to behave. Now it begins....."
I turn your head so you can see the clock.
"For 30 minutes I will spare you my lecture and you will concentrate on the stings from the spoon. You are to be silent..... "
Every few seconds another sting hits. Other than that, the room is silent. Your lips are clenched as you try to stay silent. I will increase the strength until I hear you.... Finally the 30 minutes pass and I stop.
The tears are starting to drip from your eyes,but I can not show sympathy now....
I pick up the leather paddle and start spanking you. Never twice the same. VERY hard to mild swats. Rapid to slow. All the time I am talking, almost pleading for you to see the reality of things. Brat, no matter how badly you think you can behave, I will always be able to punish the behaviour. 100 strokes go by, 150 and I stop.
You are crying now, biting your lips but doing your best to be quiet...
I think for now, I shall use my hand. I can see the bruises already starting to rise... I suck in a breath and proceed. Some stings land on bruises others dance around them. Each hurts and each hurts worse than the last.
"Davey, I'm sorry....please????"
UBER STINGS....
"I told you to be quiet brat... You have not earned the right to speak yet... Bitch, I would so rather be laying with you and fucking your brains out... but you decided that you were in charge and now I will spend the night proving you wrong. I love you so very much but you do need to learn your place... "
I stop the spanking and give you a couple of minutes to absorb and really feel what has already happened.
Sometimes you need a moment to really feel the burn.

The regular paddle comes to use now. Rapid fire stings,,,10, 20, 30....
"Davey, I said I was sorry....."
.... double strength 40....
Now you scream. All sense of silence is lost.
"I know you are sorry brat but if I stop now you will forget by tomorrow that you are. This needs to be a lesson you will NEVER forget".
After the paddle I give your bruised and purple ass a very strong massage.
"Please darlin, remember that I love you. I have to teach you to behave".

You have been tied for 2 hours now at least. The pain in your ass has never been more severe. Your breathing has changed. As you have talked about before, you went to that special place for a while. You didnt really feel parts of this; but this time I persevered and brought you back to reality.
Now you feel everything and it is agony.
"Now, 1 last tool".

I make sure your eyes are open to see me pick up the cane.
SWAT 1. "You will behave!"
Swat 2. "You will honor your husband!"
SWAT 3. "Never embarrass me again!"
SWAT 4. I hear you cry out... "RED RED... "

I drop the cane. Leaving you tied and sobbing, I go for the first aid. Returning quickly you feel the ice cold rag on your ass. I untie you and run my hand through your sweat drenched hair. After a few moments of ice bath, I dry your ass and apply the arnica cream.
Rubbing it in gently, constantly telling you of my love. The apologies run from your mouth like crazy till I finish with your ass and silence your mouth with a kiss.
I lay down beside you and pull you very close. Kissing and loving you. You do appreciate the forgiveness and the comforting but your ass has never been through that before. You don't want sex, you just cling to me and cry yourself to sleep.
"Baby, I am never asking for total submission, just pick your behaviours a bit more carefully".

The next few days are much quieter and I rub cream on your ass to sooth it but the bruises rise for the next few days...

I love you Honey,

Davey. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Strange times...

Hello kind peoples,
Life is good. Daisy has come back from her vacation so our communications are back to what we consider normal. Get to use the phone, cam, play games and all the stuff that we are used to. Seems pretty cool, so why am I nervous?
LET ME EXPLAIN
Some where along her vacation, I am thinking Daisy bumped her head. She has been on best behaviour for awhile now. 1 problem is she is usually quite proud of misbehaving....My 2nd and more important prob is that I have seen this before with Daisy....She behaves wonderfully for just so long and then explodes....LOL My wonderful wife is a brat deep down and she knows it. So when she stifles the bratazoid for just so long......BOOM !!!
So I sit here waiting for the explosion. It is actually easier to deal with mild bad behaviour on a regular basis. I am telling you, I have witnessed the shitstorm of Ultra sarcasm that is due to hit soon. I can and will deal with it but I never cease to wonder why take this approach. I can tell you, I am sure that shortly after the BIG BOOM she will post something about me being mean....LOL
All in all, I am just so glad she is home I kind of had to share it.
I do not mean to sound ungrateful but I am imagining I will be quite busy very soon.
Big hugs to Jay and much love to Daisy.
Peace, joy and cosmic tranquility to everyone.
Davey

and things get harder......

Hi folks,
First I want to Welcome my daughter back to her blog. Welcome back Jay. And if the cowardly one wants to comment here as well, bring it. Anonymous is a cowardly way to attack someone. Don't misunderstand, please.. Mild comments and compliments by an anonymous folk are fine. I just feel that everyone has the right to know the name of their accuser. Before I had a blog, I used to comment as anonymous but I almost always included my name somewhere. If for personal reasons you need your name hidden, that's fine....just mind your words.
No one reading this will be shocked to know that Jay has had more than her share of problems. I am here to say that she has done her very best to rise above those problems. As any human, she will slip and slide along her way to whatever her destiny is. Jay, I am always here for you.
Ok, time for another thought....
My beautiful, wonderful and totally spankable wife Daisy is away on family matters this week. Our communication is much more limited than usual. That really sucks considering we are barely adjusted to being 7,000 miles apart. Imagine, suddenly no cam, very limited phone. And......my silly soulmate thinks she can get away with bratting because she is momentarily safe....LOL. I find it very funny that she seems to think my memory is so short when I have proven time and again, I do not forget the important stuff. LOL
Alright, here are the answers to the meme that is currently floating around.

1. You can ONLY answer Yes or No.

2. You are NOT ALLOWED to explain ANYTHING unless someone emails or comments with an inquiry, and believe me, the temptation to explain some of these will be overwhelming. Nothing is exactly as it seems.

Now, here's what you're supposed to do. Copy and paste this meme, deleting my answers, then simply type in your answers.

Here goes:

Been arrested? Yes.

Kissed someone you didn't like? Yes

Slept in until 5 PM? Yes.

Ran a red light? Yes

Been suspended from school? Yes.

Experienced love at first sight? YES

Totaled your car in an accident? yes

Been fired from a job? NO

Fired somebody? No.

Sang karaoke? Yes.

Pointed a gun at someone? no

Done something you told yourself you wouldn't? Yes.

Caught a snowflake on your tongue? Yes.

Kissed in the rain? Yes

Had a close brush with death (your own)? Yes.

Seen someone die? No.

Played spin-the-bottle? Yes.

Smoked a cigar? Yes.

Sat on a rooftop? Yes.

Smuggled something into another country? Yes.

Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Yes.

Broken a bone? Yes

Skipped school? Yes.

Eaten a bug? Yes.

Sleepwalked? Yes.

Walked a moonlit beach? Yes.

Rode a motorcycle? Yes.

Dumped someone? Yes.

Lied to avoid a ticket? Tried to.

Ridden in a helicopter? Yes.

Shaved your head? Yes

Made your boyfriend/girlfriend cry? Yes

Eaten snake? Yes.

Marched/Protested? No

Had Mexican jumping beans for pets? Yes

Puked on amusement ride? Yes....Damn the no explanation rule....LOL

Seriously & intentionally boycotted something? No.

Been in a band? Yes.

Been on TV? Yes.

Shot a gun? Yes.

Skinny-dipped? YES

Gave someone stitches? Yes

Ridden a surfboard? NO

Drank straight from a liquor bottle? Yes.

Had surgery? Yes.

Streaked? No.

Taken by ambulance to hospital? No

Passed out when not drinking? Yes.

Peed on a bush? Yes.

Donated blood? Yes

Grabbed electric fence? Yes.

Eaten alligator meat? Yes.

Killed an animal when not hunting? Yes.

Peed your pants in public? No

Snuck into a movie without paying? Yes

Written graffiti? Yes.

Still love someone you shouldn't? no

Been in handcuffs? Yes.

Believe in love? Yes.

Sleep on a certain side of the bed? yes
Anyone who wants detail on answers, just ask or email me. I have to tell you all, I am kinda touched when someone takes the extra moment to email. And, I promise, I answer as soon as I can. Yes, I am a big old softy...just don't tell Daisy...LOL
Ok, this is a fairly long entry and I dont want to bore you...LOL
I noticed a new name on my members list that I don't recognize. So welcome Ashley j. Hope to hear from you at some point.
Thank you all that support this blog. I will tell you all a secret.... I may take serious time between entries but I doubt I will actually go away for a very long time. It's a lot of fun and I really feel I have made some actual friends here. Something that does not often happen on chat sights.

Hey Dante.....Everyone knows you are a very thinking male....Peace.

As always, Much love to my daughter Jay and my beautiful wife Daisy.
Davey